Eric Speir

Thrive In Your Faith and Family

Learn How To Be Happy Now

Have you ever met someone who was up one moment and down the next? Their life seems to be an emotional yo-yo that fluctuates based on every tug of the string in their lives. I’ll be honest with you, people like this wear me out! I believe that everyone at some point is going to have a bad day, but we don’t have to live there or set up camp.

Are you all smiles?

Many people walk around in life basing their happiness on what they have or what they don’t have in life. They often base their happiness or joy on how things are going for them at the moment. If you find yourself thinking this way or know of someone who does then keep reading! Have you ever found yourself saying, “If I could just _______, then I would be happy”? You might have also said, “If I could just have ______, then I would be happy.

You might have thought one or more of these:

“If I could just have that perfect spouse, then I would be happy.”

“If I could just have that house, then I would be happy.”

“If I could just have that car, then I would be happy.”

“If I could just have perfect kids, then I would be happy.”

“If I could just be skinny like _______, then I would be happy.”

“If I could just be as handsome as Eric, then I would be happy.” (Just kidding!)

The problem with these thoughts is that we are prolonging our joy and happiness based on something in the future. Even worse, we are basing our joy on something that may not happen like we want it to. We are robbing ourselves of joy today.

The Bible says in 1 Thessalonians 5:16, “Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

We learn a few things from this Scripture:

1. Our joy is not based on our circumstances. We are told to be joyful all the time and not just when times are good.

2. Our prayer life is to be consistent. Don’t be a fair weather Christian and resist the urge to pray only when you are in trouble.

3. Give thanks in your life even when things are not going your way. It changes your perspective and helps you to refuse to ride the emotional roller coaster!

4. It’s God’s will for you to have joy. Believe it or not, God is not out to make you miserable or to punish you.

5. God is always in control of your life. Nothing you are going through takes Him by surprise.

Most people do not realize that they think this way or even make these statements to themselves. Start thinking about what you think about and use the right filter for your thoughts. Finally, resist the urge to live your life based on your emotions.

Coaching Question: What other ways can you develop joy in your life? Please leave a comment below and feel free to subscribe to my blog by clicking here!

About Eric

I'm a pastor, writer and serial encourager. I like to help people to grow in their relationship with God. I live outside of Atlanta, GA. I've written a book, Stubborn Faith: 30 Day Devotional Guide For New Growth. It's available for download on Amazon. Feel free to follow me on Twitter at @ericspeir

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7 Replies

  1. Whats even worse is leaders or managers who are emotional yo-yos, this really frustrates me.

    I beleive you can develop joy in your life if you establish nourishment centers which are simply things which raise your heart, soul, and spirit. Like regularly attending events which lifts you up.

    Great thoughts and points.

    1. Eric

      That’s a great point about establishing nourishing centers in your life. It reminds me of the old adage of “you are what you eat.” If we put things that give us joy in our lives then that is what we will have. If we neglect our lives then it will show up in our emotions and attitudes.

      1. So true Eric. We will become like the people we spend time with and the situation we are around.

        I really enjoy reading your blog, keep up the great work.

        1. Eric

          Thanks Dan! I’m convinced more than ever that we need to be purposefully about who we allow into our lives. Many of us do not take this serious enough. I want to make my time count!

          1. So true, have a great night.

  2. Giving thanks, like you mentioned, really helps to have joy. It helps you to have an eternal perspective on things. Then we can have joy knowing that God is in control and at work through everything.

    1. Eric

      That’s true Loren. It’s easy to overlook this seemingly insignificant idea of giving thanks but it really does give us perspective.

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