How To Deal With Haters (Part 1)
Having haters in your life is inevitable, especially if you’re trying to do something significant. If you have them in your life it’s usually a good sign that you’re headed in the right direction or doing something right.
Webster defines haters as, “A person that simply cannot he happy for another person’s success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person.”
Haters often act like jerks to those around them and because they are miserable they want everyone else to be miserable too. Since haters have a hard time being happy about their lives it’s impossible for them to be happy about yours.
There’s a great story in the Bible that shows us how to deal with haters and how to get past them. It’s found in Mark 10:46-52,
46 Then they came to Jericho. As Jesus and his disciples, together with a large crowd, were leaving the city, a blind man, Bartimaeus (which means “son of Timaeus”), was sitting by the roadside begging. 47 When he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to shout, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!”
48 Many rebuked him and told him to be quiet, but he shouted all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!”
49 Jesus stopped and said, “Call him.”
So they called to the blind man, “Cheer up! On your feet! He’s calling you.” 50 Throwing his cloak aside, he jumped to his feet and came to Jesus.
51 “What do you want me to do for you?” Jesus asked him.
The blind man said, “Rabbi, I want to see.”
52 “Go,” said Jesus, “your faith has healed you.” Immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus along the road.
In this story Bartimaeus was trying to get the attention of Jesus. He was trying to get closer to him.
Don’t be surprised when the more you want to draw closer to God in your life the more haters you’ll have.
Haters don’t like being made uncomfortable. Hater’s want to keep you down on the mat.
Let’s get some background before we get too far into this. The name “Timaeus” means “unclean or contaminated.” It could also mean “son of blindness”. Imagine growing up your whole life and your name means “unclean or contaminated.” You know he was picked on in school!
He came from a contaminated background or family. He was born on the wrong side of tracks.
Bartimaeus was blind, which means he couldn’t have a vision for a future. He grew up with people reminding him that he had no future. Every time someone said his name it was a harsh reminder of his future.
The good news is that one encounter with Jesus changed all this!
All everyone saw was the “son of a blind man.” They didn’t see what Jesus saw in him.
Hater’s are blind to other people’s potential. It’s interesting that those yelling at Bartimaeus were blind as well!
If you’re dealing with haters, then you’re in good company.
In the next couple of posts were going to discuss the specific steps that it takes to deal with haters in your life. Stay tuned and sign up to get them by email!
I'm a pastor, writer and serial encourager. I like to help people to grow in their relationship with God. I live outside of Atlanta, GA. I've written a book, Stubborn Faith: 30 Day Devotional Guide For New Growth. It's available for download on Amazon. Feel free to follow me on Twitter at @ericspeir