I’ve been a parent now for several years and I’ve learned a few lessons. In fact, I’m going to share three things that I haven’t always done well. I hate to admit it but I’ve probably screwed up more times than not. I guess you can’t have it all: good looks, charm, great sense of humor and good parenting skills. Oh well, 3 out of 4 isn’t bad! Just kidding, that’s my sense of humor coming out!
There are many great parenting skills that everyone needs but lately these are the ones that I’ve been working on the most. It’s certainly not an exhaustive list but this is my blog post!
1. Be quick to apologize to your children when you blow it. As parents there are going to be times that we over react or say something that we shouldn’t. It might be that we drop the ball on something that we had promised or that we had good intentions but didn’t follow through like we should have. It’s important that you apologize to your children when you screw up. It shows them that you’re human and it models humility to them.
2. Learn to take a “chill pill.” The are some things that we get upset at now that really won’t matter in 10 years. I wonder how much energy we waste on getting upset over things that shouldn’t merit our time or emotions? The Holy Spirit told me recently to quit being so uptight about my girls cleaning up the way that I wanted them to. He quickly reminded me that it won’t matter in ten years anyway. This thought leads us to the last one.
3. Teach your children responsibility, but not perfection. I have caught myself falling into the trap of perfectionism. Recently, I got upset at my children because of the way their room was cleaned. I wanted it to be spotless or better yet perfect! Their room was cleaned like a 9 year old and 6 year old would clean it. The Lord reminded me that I wasn’t perfect either!
In any case, when I teach my children perfectionism I am setting them up for failure in their future because at some point they are going to miss the mark and crash and burn. It’s easier to teach them to be responsible adults than it is to be perfect. Jesus was perfect so I don’t have to be!
Again, these are just three that I’m working on at the moment. The good news is that by doing these I have taken some unwanted pressure off of myself and my children. Try doing these and you might be surprised as to what happens!
Do you struggle with any of these? If so, which one?